How to be the only girl in your man's bed!!

Men are adventurous and curious in nature, they want to be every where and know every thing. Naturally they center their existence on feeding, it gives them ultimate satisfaction and they think that the more they feed the more macho they get. They feed on things like money, food, gadgets, sex etc.

Today, we leave out all the the other things they derive their satisfaction from and we talk about the one thing that affects us most, sex! It would not be a problem if a man got sex from his girl alone, but unfortunately they don't, they go out their hunting, wasting your child's trust fund or what would have been your wardrobe on call girls. I mean who does that? THEY DO! I know we are angry, we are fighting so hard to turn back time, where they used to be there all the time. Only what we don't know is, we were their new fascination then, but not any more.

Today I come bearing gifts, gifts of how u can be the only girl in your man's bed, how u can be his life time fascination. Lets see, can we have them look at only us, well no, but we can have them sleep with only us. Lets start with the main reason why they cheat.

The primary reason men cheat is usually to have sex. Yep, that's about it. The truth is that most men who cheat are either feeling like they're not getting enough, or they're not getting enough variety. So, they look for a woman they think they can have sex with, and ideally, this woman will have no strings attached and there will be no emotion required at all. Now that you know why, we move to how.

Simple but tricky, we need to know and understand our men. We need to understand them to a point of reading their minds and subconscious actions. This is not easy but possible, we need to own their thoughts to be able to tame them. Once you know him, you'll know how he intends to spend the rest of his life, what excites him and that is what we are going to dwell on to keep them in only our beds. We need to become all their options, if they want variety then we become variety.

Just understanding a man will not prevent or stop him from cheating, we only use what we know to know what to do. Give him enough. Assuming that he doesn't want so much as to center your life on giving him, try your best to quench his sexual thirst. When a man's woman is enough for him, and keeps him satisfied, he will not usually feel the desire to find it somewhere else. Besides, being intimate with your man strengthens bonds and makes your relationship better - not forgetting the positive stress relief! Am thinking, that will reduce or better still, solve the problem of them not getting enough.

Now we face the problem of him wanting variety. Change things up, spice things up, and keep things fun. You may want to experiment with role playing, lingerie, or other things that will keep him on his toes. Shock him, make him wonder what is coming next, but please, this is very important, don't give up on smelling and looking good. This is one of the best ways to keep a man from cheating, because he's got it all at home and has no need to go find it.

OK, I know this is good stuff but I can't put it all in one article, but no worries, by the time I have all this on paper, our men will be surrounded. If you, by accident, my reader happen to be sleeping with another girl's man, I give u only today to pick up your dignity and run, men are not meant to be shared. Its more human to find your own. We can do it gals, lets go get them!!

DO YOU REALLY WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE LIKE THIS?

Do you really want to spend the rest of your life emotionally closed out? Trying to make your partner think your superman, yet deep inside you, you are a scared man who needs some one to support your emotional turmoil. I mean who doesn't know that when you fall in love with some one, you fall in love with the whole package? All the insecurities and fears, you carry them all. You need to give your self a chance to grow emotionally intimate with your partner.

Emotional intimacy is a psychological event that occurs when the trust level and communication between two people is such that it fosters the mutual sharing of each other's innermost selves. It is unbridled mutual self disclosure. Sadly, a lacking of emotional intimacy in relationships is common, and as a result we pay a heavy a price. Its absence can easily be witnessed by way of strained and failed relationships of those all around us, and in a larger context, reflected within the staggering divorce rates.

In our most intimate relationships, we seek to feel wholly accepted, respected, worthy, and even admired in the eyes of our mate. We would like our relationship to be a comfortable place for us when we are weary. A place of compassion and support. Emotional intimacy is needed for these feelings to develop and continue, and when there is a lacking of it the relationship breaks down. One or both parties might even seek to have these needs filled outside of the relationship, and this of course only makes matters much worse.

Why is this quality so often missing from our relationships?

If emotional intimacy is the glue that holds our unions together, why do we seem to avoid it like the plague?

The majority of people have difficulty practicing openness and allowing themselves to be vulnerable with someone. Due to gender socialization, this might be a more trying process for men. However, both genders can struggle immensely with divulging how they really think and feel, for fear of the ultimate rejection, the rejection of our true selves.

We can especially be afraid to expose our real selves to someone who's opinion really matters to us. What if we were criticized, laughed at, or seen as undesirable for our expression of who we authentically are, by someone very close and important to us? Though these are the people that it is hardest to reveal our inner truths to, ironically these are the very people that we need most to do it with.

Since we have shied away from emotional intimacy for so long we have not developed adequate communication skills in the area of intimate disclosure. We lack the ability to verbalize what our true emotional wants and needs are to our partner. It might be difficult to find exactly the right words to communicate our feelings accurately. In fact, it might even be difficult for us to formulate our wants and needs to our own selves. We might struggle to get in touch with such an truthful place within, when we are not used to dwelling there.

If we want to develop more emotional intimacy with someone, we ourselves need to become familiar with how we truly feel. How can we share our authentic feelings, wants and needs if even we are not aware of what they are? The solution is to become consciously connected to the feelings we have pushed down and buried for so long, and to explore them more completely until they are well known to us.

You can not decide to live your life locked up in your self, in fact the right thing to say is, you are slowly chipping bits of your life off. I know its hard, putting into consideration that men have unmeasurable egos, but whats an ego for if you cant even tell your self what you emotionally need because it sounds weak.

People, life is too short for us not to enjoy it. To keep moving from one relationship to another just because you can't let any one person in.

You really don't want to spend the rest of your life like that!

WHEN ITS TIME FOR YOU TO LET GO!!

One of the most scary moments in every one's life is that moment when the thought of ending up alone hits them. You just cannot begin to accept that possibility of having no one in your life. No one to love you, share your joys and life's struggles with you. This feeling stings you like a knife pushed right through your heart. God its scary! This is the time in your life when you have taken in more pain than you ever had, the Guy /Chic you worshiped is now rubbing their feet on you. This moment, your heart is shattered and you cant bring your self to trusting again. You send away every potential mate because they all look like heart breakers.

Some people handle the whole situation differently. They actually stay, They keep getting hurt and disappointed but they stay, because they know they have no energy left in them to start over. Every little ounce of energy they have is spent trying to make the relationship work. So in the end, they choose to keep fighting for this relationship instead of going out there to look for love.

Damn right I know that feeling! The heaviness of pain that weighs your heart down. Too much pain, disappointments, and fear, you settle for spending the rest of your life in such pain than struggling alone with life. Out there, you walk with your head held high because you want people to respect the fact that some one loves you, but inside, your heart is crawling and gasping for air, you have given it one way of survival, pain!

Be realistic. You don't want to kid yourself into thinking things will get better if they just keep getting worse. End things immediately if the other person fails to change. Remind yourself that you are a worthy person who deserves better. That you can actually find happiness out there. Leave on good terms instead of waiting for the hatred to set in. Recognize when you aren't getting what you need from the relationship. Follow your gut instinct instead of waiting for the perfect time to end the relationship because the perfect time never really comes.

Have you ever considered the fact that, that man or woman you are clinging on to is actually not yours? That your burning all your energy on some thing that never was? Do you know that there is a possibility of you finding love again? Why then are you wasting the chances of your happiness on some who does not deserve it. Lets cut the melodrama and think about that person who is causing you pain, you are not only taking away your happiness but their's too. He/She does not love you and they have rubbed it in your face more than once.

Just Walk away, let love work out its magic, Think about the future in a positive way. Value your independence and embrace the changes. Look ahead and see yourself happy when someone new walks into your life.

Mastering The Art Of Kissing...

Kissing is one of the most fulfilling act of showing affection. When you like some one, u always imagine what it would be like if they kissed you. Now, here comes the million dollar question. What would you do if this dream came true? I mean every one would want to have the most amazing first kiss. You wouldn't want your first kiss with this person you like so much to be a night mare, right?

Kissing is a lot more interesting if the two people involved are passionate about each other. This beautiful art starts from with in, flowing to the out side helping you walk down the road of foreplay to wonderful love making. Kissing bonds lovers, it gets them inside each other's skin, listening to the rhythm of their partner's heartbeat as it grows stronger and sweeter. That rhythm will then set the pace of divine love making.

With out kissing, making love is dry and unfriendly, it feels like an obligation, a quiet war, some thing you must do to get some where. This kind of love making sends your mind roaming because of its lack of spice, its stale and old fashioned making you feel so old and out dated. In the long run its sends your love life to a rut. Now thats not the way to go. You have to live your life in a more fulfilling way. Kiss and learn how to do it well.

The biggest secret to magical kissing is taking your partner like your most admired art piece. Curved so perfectly for you to devour. Let them know that you adore and love every thing about them. This will build confidence in them and they will give them selves to you completely.

Open your mouth slightly and place your lips over your partner's lips. Do not hold your breath! Breath through your nose. As your lips meet, press gently over your partner's. You may wish to move your lips in a slow, circular motion or just leave them still over your partner's. Take in every thing they give and show them that you still want more. Do not keep quiet when you are making out, this is the perfect time for you to compliment and praise your partner. let all your feelings out and don't hold any thing back.

Now, what is it that they say? Practice makes perfect. Keep practicing, kiss your partner as many times as you can. With time, the art will be perfected. Remember, there is more to kissing than  just lips locking...